A very dear friend of mine suggested that I blog. So, here I go. Not knowing what to blog about, I thought I would start out with what “being happy” is for me. Take from it what you will, try it on, see if it fits, if not, don’t use it or maybe if something remotely resonates, then make it your own. There are no rules. I do not have to do anything. Truly, if you think about it, the only rules that I live by are the ones I created. These rules are also called beliefs.
Being happy for me is about being in completely joy anywhere with anyone under any circumstance. We all have lives to lead and inevitably we have to relate, be with others. Some make us very happy while others, well, don’t. It is just that.
I have been researching my whole life through experiences, although I did not know it at the time, but I was creating a manual if you will, of what my likes and dislikes are. I also created within that what and who I want to play with. Why? Because when I make life a game, then everything that I experience I can much easily choose whether I like it or not. Do I want to research it more? Is it a keeper or maybe I’ll hang around the belief or the person for a specific need that needs fulfilling.
Thoughts, Beliefs and Actions
My beliefs initially were created from a thought. Thoughts become things if we create the momentum. The momentum of a thought is created within 17 seconds. What?!!! 17 seconds, yes, just try it out. Create a thought and count along with it. Like a car getting into first gear after awhile, it builds momentum, then after 68 seconds the car, me, has built momentum into a belief. For example, It’s a beautiful day, I could wash the car, I really don’t want to wash the car, maybe I’ll take a walk, yes I’ll take a walk, wonder what I’ll see, don’t know and will appreciate whatever it is I do see, I love my life.
So, that was pretty easy, do you think? Try the other avenue, It’s a beautiful day, I could wash the car, I really don’t want to wash the car, maybe I’ll take it somewhere and pay someone, then I’ll spend money and I don’t want to spend money, why can’t my husband know that I want the car washed and he just do it. I do not like my car, I’m mad at my husband and I need more money.
Try it out and see. While doing this, take a body scan and see where the feelings that arise come up. Do you feel exhilaration and joy? Where? Your heart or head. How about the feeling of anger and upset? Do you feel it in the same place but maybe just a tightening of the chest and now you have a headache. Good to know, is that all of this whether good or not so good is that it is just feedback. No one is wrong.
When we become aware of these feelings then we are on the right path of enlightenment and pure joy most of the time. In time with deep breathing and meditation and just being aware, you will find as I did that life can be incredibly beautiful, happy, joyous, creative, bountiful and the list goes on.
Everyone finds immediate joy in something. Think of one thing right now that brings you immediate joy. Mine is being outside in nature. When I think of nature I am at ease, calm and very happy. There are no attachments or condition on nature, for me, that requires me to be happy. In other words, I live life unconditionally more and more in love with everything because I go to my Happy Place, nature, most if not all of the time. Whether I am home creating quilts, at work, driving, in a city with all the hustle and bustle; I find joy in everything.
When this happens I see more beauty, my vibration and energy are high and so I am attracting the same energy level. People, things, abundance, joy are coming my way because that is what I am putting out vibrationally. Like attracts like.
Letting Go of Attachments
It is when we put conditions and attachments on people and things that gets us off of our path and unhappy and cranky. Think of something in the past where this happened to you. Could have even been unconscious at a dinner or meeting or with the family and out of the blue something was said, not said or done or not done and then you get on that hamster wheel of fear.
Yes, that is what negative emotion is is it is all based on some fear created by our belief system. And, our belief system was created by our thoughts. These thoughts and belief systems were started when we were very young and then there were other incidences that occurred later in life that validated those beliefs. Now they are pretty permanent in our cellular structure.
Are You Using Meditation?
First and foremost is to breathe, deep gut breaths, then just be with the feeling, whether good or not so good. If you have the time, try to figure out where it came from. If not, no worries. Really. Just go to your happy place.
I have found that daily meditation, walks in nature are my source of immediate joy. Just because I am considered an adult by my age I love being a child, acting like one and really getting into imagination and creativity. My favorite sport is laughing and it is risk-free, I don’t need special insurance for it, and most importantly, is that it is contagious.
One of my recent favorite sources of inspiration besides the above is Abraham-Hicks. Check her out on the internet, YouTube and Pinterest. Oh, and Pinterest is another source of fun and joy for me too! Actually I have lots. Lots and lots of joy and happy people, places and things.
Key to all of this is being congruent with my source, my spiritual guidance is always showing up especially in nature, smiling giggling children, quilting and life experiences.
Check out my website, www.cre8tiveconnections.com, go outside, find your happy place and keep that energy that vibration of pure joy within you and ride the path, your path of joy, enlightenment and happiness.
Happy Spring… What a beautiful day it is and, once I finish writing this for the Better Life Blog, I am not going to miss being outside and enjoying Spring.
Behind our house is an abundance of flora and fauna. There is so much to see that in every moment I see something new and exciting. Every day I have the same or pretty close to it at least, routine. I greet the day with appreciation of me (I know that may sound silly, but really, it is true), meditate and then move on to having a cup of tea, breakfast and my daily spiritual readings. Then I get my walking shoes on and head outside. I absolutely love it, no matter the weather (unless it is really storming bad, but then again, that is what raincoats are for). Who said I had to be 6 to jump in a puddle. Really!
My roses are blooming, the trumpet vine is coating the back fence and our Star Jasmine is just itching to explode with white star flowers and a fragrance that only my allergies will cause me upset, if I let it. Yes, I have allergies. This year was a bad one. What did I do about it, dealt with it. Yep, tried a handful of natural, homeopathic remedies and found one that works. It has been my remedy for the itchy watery eyes and runny nose. I bring this up because some of us are “allergic” to something. Mine is pollen. I love the great outdoors and beauty that surrounds me when I am outside that I will put my bodies “reactions” just so I can be outside, enjoying, taking in, experiencing the beauty and energy that coats me when I am in the outside.
Appreciate Re-birth & Take Part
Springtime is when everything is blooming, or birthing. The ducklings are so cute, the little bunnies are even cuter. The flora and fauna are telling us to bloom where we have been planted, to shine our light so that others can shine theirs. The energy that I receive when outside is limitless and I want to keep that feeling and retain that energy always and then share it. Yes, energy. Everything is expanding and extending itself, reaching for more expansion, more light. We have all rested and have been hibernating these past few months, storing up, so we can go out and enjoy, have fun and expand who we are and where we are going.
For others, they might have an “allergic reaction” to food or certain people. The same thing applies. How you respond to anything, whether pollen, food or people or places, it is what you do with that “reaction” that is key. I dealt with mine with a homeopathic treatment. I also meditate and do deep breathing. This helps me to calm the mind and receive a “download” for my remedy. Some things take time. And, for those types of “allergic reactions” I give myself the attention I need to just BE. Be who I am, breathe and know that “this too shall pass”. Just as my allergic reaction to pollen will pass. For there is another season that I will bloom and grow and enjoy.
Appreciate Nature’s Beauty
Enjoy the beauty that surrounds you, even if you are still experiencing rain or even snow and darkness. Expand your heart and mind to the Sun that is always shining, just beyond those clouds. The Sun shines on us all which creates the abundance of the beauty that is before you in the blooming springtime and within you.
“Appreciate what is, be eager for what is coming and know that there is great love for you here.” Abraham-Hicks
When I was young, often, my brother, sister and I would visit my paternal grandparents at their cabin during the summers.
It was our indoctrination to nature and ultimately, to God.
I remember being outdoors, a lot, all day; coming in for food and water and, once replenished, to head outside soon and to experience the greatest place on Earth, outdoors.
There were other kids who we joined in with and played all types of games, mostly made up.
On a couple of occasions, I remember something happened that required adult input. Who knows what actually happened, but we needed someone to intervene.
When these occurrences arose, my grandfather, Erle, stepped in. He wasn’t a big man but he did carry a big stick. He called it his talking stick. It was a branch from the mountain area where the cabin was located. It was about 4 feet long, and he had whittled it to a reasonable smoothness.
Erle’s Sacred Space
When the truth was needed, he would call each of us in, one at a time, and sit us down at one end of their hearty dining room table. He would create a safe atmosphere. I was never afraid of my grandfather. He always made me feel safe, validated, loved. We all knew he cared.
He would tell me that his talking stick was where you could speak your truth and that you were protected.
I’m really not sure what it was made out of, either Lodge Pole Pine or Red Fir. Maybe I should take it to Harry Potter’s wand maker and find out because I know it had magical powers, at least I thought it did.
I remember this happening only twice. And, I felt that everything was righted afterwards.
When I think back about those times, I truly believe that feeling of protection has stayed with me. Ultimately, they became a marker for my most core values and beliefs.
The truth always prevails.
Now, whether there was justice that is for another time and place. For you see, if you live from and from this natural law, that the truth always, always, always prevails. Your life will experience the grandest of experiences of all, God.
That is who I am and try to live by, because when we live and breath this way of being then we are free. We can surrender any and all facades that we have created, for whatever reason we created them for and live happily contented, at peace
The interesting memory I have after having one of these moment with my grandfather, was that I felt lighter and the room became brighter. Every sense of my being was lifted, simplified.
I am smiling because I see my grandfather being the master of his creator. He always took care of what needed to be taken care of. I do not remember who he spoke with before or after our talk, or the action, if any, that was taken. All I know, then and now, was that everything was alright in the world, my world.
My husband and I are caretakers of that cabin and Erle’s talking stick still has it’s place where it always has been and will be, in it’s rightful place.
Took a sabbatical. Some time off and observed life. Looked at what I saw and how I responded to my life and others, and just let life be whatever.
It felt good to let certain things go and just sit in the back seat.
Growing up there were five of us kids and I remember as a child traveling in the station wagon (remember those) and my mom would sometimes take all of us to visit our grandparents or travel (not too far). She would drive pretty fast, I thought, and now I know why. From the back seats she wold hear relentlessly, “She touched me. He’s bothering me. I’m hungry. When are we going to get there. I have to go to the bathroom. Can I change places?” There were no cell phones or iPod’s in those days to entertain us.
So, my mom would make up games, basically to distract us, to quiet her world no doubt. There was the alphabet license plate game and another one was where we had to come up with words from the 3 letters on a license plate.
A Playful Life is a Better Life
I loved it. Because I loved playing games. I still play that game today as I drive. I think it keeps my brain in good working order.
My husband says I’m competitive. I say I love to play games because I love to play, especially games. Winning is secondary. The main reason is that it usually involves others and it is fun.
It gives me an excitement about the “what’s next”, the mystery of my existence or purpose. Loving the not knowing and anticipating and being enthusiastic about the next step is a great feeling, especially when it is about what is next on my path. Letting go and allowing is so freeing.
The observer is stepping back, though involved, and sensing, seeing the movie that is playing before the self. Seeing, sensing action or reaction for me and others.
Being an observer allows me to really and truthfully see my true self, sometimes humbly, learning and hopefully growing from that awakening.
My Mom was fun and a classy lady but being driven by her with the five of us in the back seats we knew we would get wherever we needed to be and fast!
I’m in the driver’s seat now and ready to experience and express those observations from a participant’s point of view. I hope you’ll enjoy the ride, it may get a little bumpy for some of you and we may go fast, but it will definitely be fun!