In Texas, they tell it like it is, respectfully. In Texas and in Hawaiian culture, younger generations respect their elders, or Aunties and Uncles in Hawaiian. I was brought up to respect my elders. Why? Not because they are smarter and/or know more, well, that part is probably true, but because they deserve to be heard and to impart their wisdom on the younger generations.
I had that lesson today. I was trying to impart my opinion/philosophy on someone in their 20’s and I was rather rudely told, well, told off. WoW!
I respected their opinion and told them so, as well as, reminding them that if you post something on Facebook, then you have to be prepared to get the good response as well as the not so good. Right? Well, I am also thinking that they probably weren’t really mad at me, just upset that they have some other battle going on and I seem to have popped their balloon, maybe they weren’t having such a great day. It’s all good.
I reminded them that I loved them and I would mind my own business next time. If they want my opinion, they can ask me for it, respectfully given, and respectfully received.
I Expect Respect Because I Give It
I’ve noticed in the two climates mentioned above, Texas and Hawaii, that the young for the most part, from what I’ve seen and experienced, respect their elders. They refer to an older generation as Ma’am and Sir in Texas. I love that. And, I’ve experienced it and relish when I visit as I appreciate being honored.
Same thing in Hawaii. I’ve volunteered at a Hawaiian descendants summer camp and the first day when I was introduced to the attendee’s, the matriarch asked the children what I was to be called if they needed my help. In unison, their response was, “Auntie Anne”. Wow! When I heard them say that, I felt it in my body like a wave upon a shore, a wave of respect and love.
What I’ve also noticed in both those cultures, because Texas is a culture in and of itself. Thank God! Most everyone I’ve met actually looks me in the eye when in conversation. They hold the door for me/us and genuinely seems to care. Now I know that that is not everyone and I am sure that I’ve missed some folks who do not do the things mentioned.
Different Places Have Different Cultures
I am just saying that I’ve noticed a difference between these two cultures and climates and my own here in California. Are we too laid back, go with the flow (one of my favorite mantras)? Or, do we truly not care how we treat others especially the elder generations? I don’t really know. What I do know, is that if someone I care about whether they are my age, my children’s age or even older, I, as Aretha Franklin sings, R.E.S.P.E.C.T. them first and foremost. Even if it’s the first time meeting them.
Now if I know them well enough that I think they need some parental input, then I give it lovingly and honestly. Why? Because if I feel I need to say something, then I say it, coming from the heart. And, I let them know that I love them and that I’m saying it because it needs to be said. P.E.R.I.O.D. If I am so concerned what others think of me, then I’m going to shrivel up and die never speaking my truth. Not happening. Not in this life time.
Truth and Respect Go Hand in Hand
And, it is not just because I am a life coach or parent or friend. It is because the truth always, A.L.W.A.Y.S. prevails, always. So, if I don’t speak my truth about something to someone that I feel needs to be said, then I die and so do they, a little bit. This is what works for me. If I don’t, then it festers and over a period of time. Over that period of not voicing my heart, disease sets in and illness prevails, the death of the soul, the heart and possibly the body.
Now, what you do with what I’ve written or said, that is up to you. I am an open book, and I am willing, or should I say, W.I.L.L.I.N.G., to put myself out there in full expression of my most beautiful and amazing self, because it is no different than what Jesus did. I will gladly take the flowers and stones if that is what anyone chooses to throw my way. Why? Because that is my truth. And, I know that I speak my truth from an unconditional loving heart. Open to the gifts, whatever they are.
Please, please, please BE RESPECTFUL and speak with a loving heart.
The saying, “curiosity killed the cat”, certainly does not apply to me. I am a spiritual warrior. Wanting, desiring more, more information, diving deep and expanding. Breathing. Pondering and wondering, for the answers to what else is there for me to know. For this curiosity, at times, very ferocious, I search out books and love to read. For this I am eternally grateful.
Books have been a love of mine since very young. My Mom would take us to the library, remember those? And, I would love walking through the aisles, reading the titles, the cataloging label, and breathing in the smell of words upon paper. As I got older, I would ride my bike and bring home mostly fiction. It was one of several sanctuary’s for me.
As a Certified Spiritual Life Coach, the momentum of my reading has expanded exponentially. There are not enough minutes in a day for all the books I want to read. As I share my passion to those who are curious, I offer a reading list. Why? Because sometimes that is the best way to teach. So, I’ve attached my Suggested Reading list. Please take a moment to ponder the list. Breathe. And, see what comes up. If one or more titles resonate to you, get the book and read. There is something in the book that you have called out to for an answer. The answer is in the book, or, at least the next step on your path.
Also, on the list are meditation CD suggestions. All of these I have and still use. Another “toy” in my toy box. Enjoy!
Be Ferociously Curious
Or at least curious in trying new genres of books. Fiction, non-fiction, science, cosmology, metaphysics, just to name a few. Rereading some of the ones on my list also teach me something I didn’t catch the first or second time around.
Please feel free to add your favorite book(s). I love sharing! Post them in comments and also let me know what you think of this post. Blessings
Cre8tive Connections Suggested Resources
Angel Cards – Doreen Virtue
Angels of Abundance: Heaven’s 11 Messages to Help You Manifest Support, Supply, and Every Form of Abundance ~ Doreen virtue and Grant Virtue
The Art and Science of Raja Yoga ~ Swami Kriyananda
Autobiography of a Yogi ~ Parmahansa Yogananda
The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have ~ Mark Nepo
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Co-creating at its Best: A Conversation Between Master Teachers ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer and Esther Hicks
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself ~ Melody Beattie
Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Gift of Change: Spiritual Guidance for Living Your Best Life ~ Marianne Williamson
The Four Agreements ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness ~ Gary Zukav and Linda Francis
The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teaching of Abraham ~ Ester Hicks and Jerry Hicks
The Law of Science: Using the Power of Spirit to Create Health, Prosperity, and Happiness ~ Parmahansa Yogananda
The Little Book of Bleeps: “Ponder These for Awhile!” Quotations from the Movie, “What the Bleep Do We Know!?” ~ William Arntz and Betsy Chasse (Editors)
Real World Lessons
Think and Grow Rich ~ Napoleon Hill
Love Without Conditions ~ Paul Ferrini
My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey ~ Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor
The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? ~ Rick Warren
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles” ~ Marianne Williamson
The Four Agreements ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
The Science of Mind: A Philosophy, A Faith, A Way to Live ~ Ernest Holmes
The Secret of Letting Go ~ Guy Finlay
The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire ~ Deepok Chopra
The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself ~ Michael S. Singer
What You Think of Me is None of My Business ~ Dr. Terry Cole-Whittaker
Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
It Works: The Famous Little Red Book That Makes Your Dreams Come True! ~ R. H. Jarrett
You Can Heal Your Life ~ Louise Hay
Your Inner Awakening: The Work of Byron Katie: Four Questions that Will Transform Your Life ~ Byron Katie
Getting into the Vortex: Guided Meditations CD and User Guide ~ Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks
Namaste ~ by Namaste
Relax, Soothing Sounds for Mind & Spirit ~ Bath & Body Works
When I was young, often, my brother, sister and I would visit my paternal grandparents at their cabin during the summers.
It was our indoctrination to nature and ultimately, to God.
I remember being outdoors, a lot, all day; coming in for food and water and, once replenished, to head outside soon and to experience the greatest place on Earth, outdoors.
There were other kids who we joined in with and played all types of games, mostly made up.
On a couple of occasions, I remember something happened that required adult input. Who knows what actually happened, but we needed someone to intervene.
When these occurrences arose, my grandfather, Erle, stepped in. He wasn’t a big man but he did carry a big stick. He called it his talking stick. It was a branch from the mountain area where the cabin was located. It was about 4 feet long, and he had whittled it to a reasonable smoothness.
Erle’s Sacred Space
When the truth was needed, he would call each of us in, one at a time, and sit us down at one end of their hearty dining room table. He would create a safe atmosphere. I was never afraid of my grandfather. He always made me feel safe, validated, loved. We all knew he cared.
He would tell me that his talking stick was where you could speak your truth and that you were protected.
I’m really not sure what it was made out of, either Lodge Pole Pine or Red Fir. Maybe I should take it to Harry Potter’s wand maker and find out because I know it had magical powers, at least I thought it did.
I remember this happening only twice. And, I felt that everything was righted afterwards.
When I think back about those times, I truly believe that feeling of protection has stayed with me. Ultimately, they became a marker for my most core values and beliefs.
The truth always prevails.
Now, whether there was justice that is for another time and place. For you see, if you live from and from this natural law, that the truth always, always, always prevails. Your life will experience the grandest of experiences of all, God.
That is who I am and try to live by, because when we live and breath this way of being then we are free. We can surrender any and all facades that we have created, for whatever reason we created them for and live happily contented, at peace
The interesting memory I have after having one of these moment with my grandfather, was that I felt lighter and the room became brighter. Every sense of my being was lifted, simplified.
I am smiling because I see my grandfather being the master of his creator. He always took care of what needed to be taken care of. I do not remember who he spoke with before or after our talk, or the action, if any, that was taken. All I know, then and now, was that everything was alright in the world, my world.
My husband and I are caretakers of that cabin and Erle’s talking stick still has it’s place where it always has been and will be, in it’s rightful place.
“Happy Birth Day to Me, Happy Birth day to Me, Happy Birth Day Dear Anne, Happy Birth Day to Me. And, many more on Channel 4, and Scooby Doo on Channel 2”
I am so excited! It’s going to be my birthday on Sunday February 28th. I am going to be 59 years old. I love the color purple and all of its shades, hues and tones. My favorite gemstone is amethyst and lately, emerald. I like green, there are 50,000 shades of green. I like that.
I am very happy and grateful that I get to celebrate my life of 59 years young. Really, in the great big scheme of things that is a blip on the radar.
Since, it’s my party, I’ll cry if I want to, dance if I want to, shout out loud if I want to, eat what I want and wear what I want. AND, I don’t care what others say or think of me. If I happen to make them smile and giggle, well then by golly more power to you for seeing the fun in it all. The childlike attitude, the silliness and spontaneity of being authentic.
I like to feel happy so I work at savoring in the feeling of happiness, of joy. Yes, there are times when I am not so silly or happy and that’s okay too, its just when I let that not so good feeling bring me down. I used to stay there for awhile and sometimes too long. I am learning cuz I’m still so young at 59. There is so much more to know and breathe in and experience and see. I hope, dream and believe I can live for 20 more years or 30 more years just so I can see and experience more.
I love more. Sometimes I love everything just as it is and I’m okay with the beauty that is ALWAYS surrounding me. The unconditional love that the world is smiling, dancing, playing and experiencing itself.
It’s kinda like a bird or a dog or a flower or a 2 year old. They all are just themselves living in the moment of their truth. Calm, content, happy, being, playing, eating, drinking in all that is their truth.
I am happy that I get to celebrate my birth day because that means I’m living and growing and expanding and breathing. And, I’m okay with me being me whatever that might show up to be at any given moment. Be happy Being you wherever you are with whatever your life is at this very moment. Whatever that may look like. Feel that cellularly and let it really sink in. If it’s a happy feeling, let it expand and really watch yourself grow. If it’s not such a great feeling, that’s okay too. Allow yourself to be with that feeling and tell that feeling that it’s time to go. Bye Bye. Now go find your happy place, something that makes you feel good. Now let that feeling really sink in and allow yourself to let it expand, breathe, grow and cement that in cellularly. So, next time you find yourself not going the way you want. Stop. Breathe. Remember that feeling of happiness. It might even be just a feeling of calm, contentment.
Life is meant to be joy filled, contentment, peace, and celebration, of life. Can we be that way all of the time. Heck no. That’s okay, though, because it just shows we are human.
We are spiritual beings in a human form here in earth school. It’s a learning, expanding, growing, experiencing everything there is to experience, feel and sense.
Celebrate your birth day with me on mine. Go outside, play, run, color outside the lines, paint, go to the movies, go bowling or ride your bike. Just go and have fun. Even if you are by yourself. You are fun so go have fun with fun!
When I was young I would sense things, people, places by how I felt. These feelings continue today and I am much more aware of their meanings and how to know and understand them. How? From the tools, or “toys,” as I like to call them, that I have learned throughout my life and that I use to teach, or play, with others.
Some of these toys were a struggle for me to incorporate into my daily, weekly routine. Why? Because I had built up a set routine or habit of what worked for me to survive and be happy. The more aware I became of how I felt, the more I learned what was good for me or not. Who was good to have around my life or not, based on how I felt.
Have you ever been just going along in your life, happy camper, either at home, work, or in a social setting and then for some unknown reason, suddenly, you felt drained, tense and maybe not sure of yourself? Whereas, right before said event or person or experience, you were just fine? This has to do with energy. Yours and whatever person, place or experience just arrived at your doorstep. You didn’t know it at the time and maybe brushed it aside and attributed it to being tired, or you ate something bad or whatever. But you just brushed it off, until it happened again.
When you first start the desire to become more aware, enlightened, possibly very curious as to why you think and feel a certain way at certain times and not others, it can be confusing. Starting the inquiry and maybe doing research to find the answers is a good thing, and it is letting you know that you are on your path. Becoming aware is the first success. Verbalizing the feeling and pondering it is another success. Why? Because it leads you to your next step. Your evolution.
Emotions are a Key Indicator
Our emotions, how we feel about things, people and experiences is first and foremost to discovering why we do, why we act, react, why we say, don’t say, basically respond to experiences in our life. Connecting consciously with our feelings, our internal guidance system (IGS), and choosing to listen and support that feeling, life is very good. Even if that feeling is not a good feeling. Why? Because you get the opportunity to learn, make choices and grow. You decide, do I keep this part of me? Or, do I not. And, it’s all good.
Our emotions, the way we feel is what I call,the evolution of energy. The evolution of energy looks like this, in a nutshell: I have a feeling, if the feeling continues it becomes a thought. Thought continues into a self created belief (belief system otherwise known as, BS), my belief continues into an emotional state that perpetuates into meaning (i.e. this means that, love means this, fear means that), our meaning becomes our behavior (whether we want to think it does or not), and, our behavior creates our result, an “aha” moment.
How Do You Feel?
Is there any place in your body that has more feeling than another? What is it that you are feeling? Take a mental note, write it down if you feel you must. Just be aware of the feeling. No judgement. Just awareness.
Be at peace with this feeling. When we are at peace with how we feel, good or not so good feeling, we begin a journey of deeper discovery and healing. It all depends upon your willingness to allow yourself to be real, your true self.
These moments can be humbling and enlightening. And, it’s all good. It is what you do with it that takes you to the next level or not. And, that is good too! It is a choice.
Rolling, Rolling, Rolling, Keep that Momentum Going, Or Not!
Did you notice something else in the paragraph of the evolution of energy? Momentum. A feeling became a result. And, this sometimes takes only one minute. In one minute, you can have a feeling and have a distinct result based on the momentum of that feeling. This feeling can be about others without them being present. And, therefore, one can create drama by oneself in only the matter of a single minute, sixty seconds.
So, with that said. You create your world, your day, your moment. What do you create? This is the evolution of energy, the momentum of a feeling a thought that becomes something bigger, good or bad, then all of a sudden you might even be on a rampage, good or bad, without anyone around.
If it is a bad feeling, that is energy going out into the universe and create your next moment. A very important question to ask yourself if you ever get in this fast moving train is, Why am I activating this feeling? Why am I creating this ill will? On the other hand, how would you feel if you had a good feeling and increased the momentum of that feeling into a thought and so on. That is the feeling and momentum, the evolution of positive energy that you want to attain. Why? Because it feels good and when we feel good, good things come our way.
It’s Okay to Feel your Feelings
My daily goal is to become aware of how I am feeling. If I can stay on the right track of positive and good feelings I try really hard to keep it going all day long. Why? Because I get to experience so much more empowering and enlightening feelings that feel good. And, feeling good is a good thing. What do you want to feel in your life?
Just had an energy healing. It was amazing. Uncomfortable, not so much anymore, unearthing, diving deep and being awakened to my truth is the essential benefit.
Most of my life I have been on a quest. It started with questioning why I thought or felt the way I did. Searching, being the student and learning the “Why’s” of me have been instrumental to my growth, for me, as Anne.
This last process took me back to a very early age, 1 1/2 years of age, when my father transitioned. He transitioned too soon, as far as everyone who knew him felt. Unbeknownst to me, he took with him a little part of each of us, my Mom, brother and sister.
I knew this quite a while ago after a previous journey with a Shamen here in town. What I didn’t know but suspected was that the little part of me that he took, was blocking me from being my truest self. Oh, I have done the work. First with a psychiatrist, then a therapist which eventually led me to my own research within philosophy and religion, basically, a spiritual student seeking out the highest form of assistance in uncovering who I truly am.
Positive Energy, Positive Life
I AM a child, of God, where I placed myself into a family where I would learn. Learn what my purpose is and what I needed to learn to fulfill that purpose.
There were many experiences during my early years until early adulthood and to be truthful, I’d say that it was 50/50. 50 percent of the time good and 50 percent of the time not so good. And, know that it is all good because from the not so good aspect, that was my teacher. Learning the why’s of myself and others. Not so much to fully understand but to learn what worked for me and what did not. What was truth and not my truth.
Through the years because of the healing work that I have been doing, there are certain times when I uncover a large block to reveal a very tightly protected part of my soul.
That is what occurred for me today. I am writing about it because that is part of my purpose here on this planet Earth. I am writing about it so my voice can be seen and heard. I am writing about it so others who have had any inkling, desire, or intuitive sense that “there is more to me” then meets their own eyes, to go out and search for someone who can assist them on their quest.
Trust the Energy Within
At first I thought it was scary. Oh, dear, what will they uncover. That pretty much has gone by the wayside. Why? Because I have done it enough to know that withholding that inner voice and quest for understanding the self more, only makes the pain and suffering deeper and harder when it is time to uncover. And, that is okay. It is okay because everyone is on their own path with their own time to discover and rediscover. We are here for eternity and so there is plenty of time.
If you are feeling any angst, fear, despair, hatred, resentment towards yourself or anyone else, it is time to seek help. You can find any type of healer, be it a psychiatrist, psychotherapist, Reiki, psychic or an energy healer by just asking. Ask out loud for the right healer to be brought to you. It is amazing what will show up in the form of an advertisement, a friend, a book at the bookstore or “a voice”. Be open to what you will receive. Feed the love that is you for the healing that you desire.
Allowing yourself the gift of healing is the greatest gift of all.
I AM matters because without me being me standing in my true authentic self, then I can’t see the I AM of you, others, plants, animals and the Universe as their true authentic selves.
When I shine my light am I AM, then it allows others to shine their light and unconditional love.
I AM what I AM and I AM many things
I AM light, the energy from Source that when I allow the opening of my heart to receive these gifts,I AM empowered to expand, grow, experience, grow some more, and to always, always, always shine brightly.
I AM truth, the truth that I KNOW I AM as Anne, walking MY PATH, for me so I can shine brightly charged by the light energy that is my Source asI AM to walk. I walk this path every day, receiving, knowing, experiencing the truth of Source as Anne so I can share with those that want to learn, love and laugh.
I AM unconditional love. This is so freeing as I AM allowed to experience and give AND receive the same back tenfold. It is so simple, that sometimes I wonder why it took me so long to allow these truths, bow to these truths as my truth. Unconditional love is allowing, relishing in myself and others as their true authentic selves NO MATTER. Allowing others to be who they need to be in that moment. Why? Because it is their path, their story, their life just as it is mine on my path, my story and my life.
I AM creative, co-creative, dancing with my Source in the path of life, my life. To find the co-creative other to expand that creativity beyond its current form. Why? Because that is our purpose. To create, co-create and expand what has transpired so we can move on. Unless I move, the place where I AM will be the place where I will always be. That is not me.I AM, WE ARE meant to learn the teachings that our ours to learn, no one else’s, they are ours.
Simplify and Be
I AM FUN! I love life, I love games, I love to make life a game. Why? Because then it frees me to find the joy in EVERYTHING! Everything is as it should be. Why? Because when we are frustrated, angry or upset, depressed, anxious about where we are, there is a great enlightenment around the corner and we need to let those negative emotions go so we can get moving on our path.
Breathe, relax and ALLOW the unfolding of what is. When I make life a game regarding situations/experiences that are not supporting my greater good, then I can receive the next step on my FUN, CREATIVE, TRUTHFUL, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND LIGHT to move forward. Why? Because that is what I AM TO DO, we ALL are to do. Don’t, and you stay stagnate stuck in a muck of the mild river of misery.
Why not be the I AM that we are all waiting for. BE the light, energy, unconditional love truth that is you. Not sure who you are? Breathe, BE, just BE, take the time for self-care. It may seem selfish to others, but until you start taking care of yourself, you can’t take care of others.
The Universe has all the time in the Universe, we in the physical realm, do not. It can be in this lifetime or another. Your choice.
BE YOU! Be the I AM!
Just for fun, of course, get a pad of paper and pen/pencil/crayon/felt marker (color is more fun). Write at the top of the page in the middle,I AM. Now just start writing positive words that empower and enlighten you, be truthful. BE I AM
SILLY (yes, because I really AM)
Now keep going. Do this once a day. Use different words. Find the ones that really resonate with you. Empower those words. Come up with a common 12 word list that you can look at every day. Color them. Use different color of paper. HAVE FUN! Be patient with yourself. Be loving to yourself. Be selfish with the self care that you need. Even if it means standing in your own integrity of your truth REGARDLESS of what others think, do or say.
Took a sabbatical. Some time off and observed life. Looked at what I saw and how I responded to my life and others, and just let life be whatever.
It felt good to let certain things go and just sit in the back seat.
Growing up there were five of us kids and I remember as a child traveling in the station wagon (remember those) and my mom would sometimes take all of us to visit our grandparents or travel (not too far). She would drive pretty fast, I thought, and now I know why. From the back seats she wold hear relentlessly, “She touched me. He’s bothering me. I’m hungry. When are we going to get there. I have to go to the bathroom. Can I change places?” There were no cell phones or iPod’s in those days to entertain us.
So, my mom would make up games, basically to distract us, to quiet her world no doubt. There was the alphabet license plate game and another one was where we had to come up with words from the 3 letters on a license plate.
A Playful Life is a Better Life
I loved it. Because I loved playing games. I still play that game today as I drive. I think it keeps my brain in good working order.
My husband says I’m competitive. I say I love to play games because I love to play, especially games. Winning is secondary. The main reason is that it usually involves others and it is fun.
It gives me an excitement about the “what’s next”, the mystery of my existence or purpose. Loving the not knowing and anticipating and being enthusiastic about the next step is a great feeling, especially when it is about what is next on my path. Letting go and allowing is so freeing.
The observer is stepping back, though involved, and sensing, seeing the movie that is playing before the self. Seeing, sensing action or reaction for me and others.
Being an observer allows me to really and truthfully see my true self, sometimes humbly, learning and hopefully growing from that awakening.
My Mom was fun and a classy lady but being driven by her with the five of us in the back seats we knew we would get wherever we needed to be and fast!
I’m in the driver’s seat now and ready to experience and express those observations from a participant’s point of view. I hope you’ll enjoy the ride, it may get a little bumpy for some of you and we may go fast, but it will definitely be fun!
I love this time of year where I live. The leaves change color, and, it is stunning. Change. Some if not most of the time can be relatively easy, note the term relatively. It all depends upon you. For instance the fall colors, I love them, some don’t. Why? Because it also means the trees shedding their leaves and to some that appears as death. To me, it means sloughing off of the old and time to go inward. Keeping what works and get rid of what doesn’t, which is a wonderful reason for living in gratitude at all times.
Taking the time for each season as each season changes, is necessary for growth, spiritual growth and physiological. If I don’t take the time to reflect, ponder and tend to what needs tending, then, eventually, those “things” come up again and again until I take care of them or something “unexpected” happens. Tending to the “things” or beliefs or situations that are coming up for me can be tended to in several different manners. Being aware of them is first and foremost. Acknowledging that there is something that needs care and feeding. It is uncomfortable at times because depending upon what it is that I am facing within myself, I need to be mindful of how deep to ponder. If dwelling on the “thing” too long, can be debilitating and I end up spiraling too deep. Set the timer. Allow only so much time to ponder and most important, give yourself permission to be grateful, thankful for your honoring your true self.
Raking the leaves and ridding the yard of the unneeded is good for the landscape. Keeping the leaves, in certain areas, is also good. Why? Because they will compost down and help that areas health. If I let all the leaves where they lay, it is definitely not good on my driveway or sidewalk. I slip or fall, others might do the same. And, it will clog the drain causing a build up of water and other debris near the drain. As in nature, my life can be the same. There are things that I need tending to and dealt with in the appropriate manner. If I don’t, then I get clogged up and debris (dis-ease) sets in. I might get angrier then necessary, sick, paper cut, stubbed toe, etc. etc. AND, I usually know why.
It is going to be okay.
The other reason I love this time of year is it is the annual time when we give thanks for our abundance. Things such as an able body, mind, abundance in our health, friends, family and material possessions, career and purpose. And, no matter what I have or don’t have, do or don’t do, I am grateful and very thankful that I am who I am and where I am in my life. Why? Because I created and manifested what is before me and when I come from this place of appreciation, more comes my way. Thankful, very thankful.
One thought that has arisen over the last few years at this time of year is tradition. It has always been a tradition to join with friends and family on the last thursday of the year to celebrate thankfulness. Where did this come from? We all know that it was the pilgrims and indians who sat together at a table and shared food and community. But when I think about it, did they all come back together the next year and the next? How has this changed over the years? And, when did Macy’s become part of the tradition, for some? Just sayin’.
Family and tradition is what it is for those that make it so. With this I mean, my family tradition has changed. Why? Because my family changed. I changed. There were some things that just did not work out for me. Why? Frankly, sometimes I don’t know. Other times, it was the family dynamics. I live farther away and trying to please others can be quite a challenge. So, what I do is I ask myself where do I want to spend my thanksgiving and with who. Most of the time it is with my immediate family. Sometimes a friend or two will join in. Am I good with that. Yes. Do I worry how others feel about it? No. Used to but now, No. It was not serving my greater good, for whatever reason, and that is just the way it is.
When we grow up in a family under one roof, there were traditions that were kept up, recreated and adapted to the current situation. Most of the time it was a large gathering. The only reason why I may feel sad is because that tradition was not kept up. And, a lot has to do with family members that are no longer with us and because of that, the dynamics change. Yes, that is probably a “thing” that I need to ponder more, the fact that just because certain family members are gone shouldn’t be the reason I don’t attend a family tradition, but people and things change. And, that is okay.
I am thankful for the history. I am thankful for my herstory. I am thankful for the traditions of Thanksgiving. I am thankful for my traditions, old and new. I am thankful for my family, all of them. I am thankful for this country. I am thankful for friends and neighbors.
This is my belief. I take the stand for standing up for oneself, voicing what needs to be said and acting accordingly to what serves the greater good, even if it means change. Change always happens. Within one minute there are so many changes in so many things. If I follow my inner guidance of what my truth is then I live a more fulfilled life. If someone or others don’t agree, that is okay. That is their belief and I honor that. Whether they honor my belief is none of my business. Dr. Terri Cole-Whitaker states, “It is none of my business what you think of me”, and vice versa.
Our purpose is to have fun and reach our desires. Thanksgiving is the same. Find your happy place, go have fun with those you have fun with. Create abundant health by having fun. Reach your desires by finding the fun and joy where you flourish. Hence the term, “Happy Thanksgiving!”
The holidays are upon us and it can cause for some a feeling of uncomfortableness, anxiety, fear, depression, guilt and shame. My offer is for this; do what you need to do to be authentic, feel good about yourself and be grateful, thankful, appreciative for yourself and others. Most important, is to be healthy, honest and speak coming from the heart in your actions. Seek outside guidance from a licensed, certified professional if you have had in the past or currently have a difficult time with the holidays. There is no guilt or shame in the seeking of outside professional help. I did and it helps, alot.