This is a sewing machine. A Singer Rocketeer, Model 502A. It is similar to the one that my mother taught my sister and I how to sew with. It is a solid metal, heavy, work horse. I could sew ANYTHING with this baby. Who knew this machine would become my connection to creativity and happiness?
My mother was a very creative and talented sewer, not a seamstress, but a creative sewer and a fabulous knitter.
Learning to be Creative When Young
She started to teach my sister when she was 11 years old. When I saw what they were doing, I wanted to join in. Not sew much for the sewing aspect, but for the camaraderie and companionship that I thought was happening. Little did I know that by encroaching upon their togetherness, that I would actually enjoy the creative process of sewing.
I had no idea that I was driven, passionately, to create with fabric, especially colorful fabric. As I advanced through the stages of “making” something, anything, I realized I thrived on the challenge of learning another new aspect of creating. Buttonholes, zipper installations, welt pockets, collars, waistbands, hemming. It didn’t matter what it was, so long as I was able to spend time with my Mom, and create.
Periodically, she would announce that she was going to the store and if any of one of us kids wanted to join her. When there fell a silence throughout the home, I peeped up and asked, “where are you going?”. When she replied that she needed to go to the grocery store and the fabric store, I chimed in, “I’ll go with you”. I was on a natural high whenever I entered the queendom of fabricland. I LOVED, absolutely LOVED and still do LOVE entering a fabric store. There was sew much to take in, the beautiful fabrics, patterns, buttons, zippers, thread and sewing supplies. I absolutely LOVED taking my hand and laying it upon the fabrics, touching, feeling, the different textures as I walked throughout the bolts of fabric.
Starting a Project Requires a Vision
After looking at all the fabric, I would eventually settle in at the table of pattern books, perusing the pages upon pages of clothing designs. Then one or two patterns would, it seem, jump out to me and want to be created. I would go to the pattern cabinets, search out the pattern and size, then walk back through the fabric to find the one fabric that beckoned my name. Getting the nod of approval, the go ahead from my Mom, we would together collect all the required notions necessary for completing my new found creative experience. As we would drive back home, my mind would race as to the next steps to make the garment.
And, as in all projects, there are steps and trials and errors. But the one thing that has NEVER waned, is my excitement to get to the next project, the next step and, even having to figure out how to handle a challenging project or redesign.
That is and was my mother’s gift to me. Not just the creative process, not being taught a skill that she enjoyed, but the opportunity to nurture a desire with her by my side.
My mothers encouragement, guidance and support was always there. She NEVER criticised my wonky seams, or imperfect zipper installation, or uneven buttonholes. To this day, I remember having her check my work and ask for what the next step was to be. She would kindly comment, “next time, keep your eye on the seam guide”, or, “what do the directions say”. But she would NEVER say that any of my sewing was wrong or bad. And, for that I am most appreciative and grateful.
Motivation and Passion
I believe, that my Mom, as tough as it was to not say those unencouraging words, knew that she herself enjoyed the times we spent together.
Her motivation of my passion led me to studying clothing at college where I received my BS degree in Home Economics with an emphasis in Clothing and Textiles. I was fortunate to excel to the point that I created my own classes and created period pieces for the town’s historical home docents, one of which was blind. The piece I designed had to be easy for her to dress and undress by herself.
Every time I sit to create, I always feel my mother’s presence. Not sew much guiding and supporting me, but enjoying the creative process, seeing what I am going to make with me.
I am sew blessed, sew grateful, for sew much. I love the creative process as it helps me to pull out what I am meant to do and that is to create.
We are all here to create something. Whether a dress, stained glass window, painting, gardening, even plumbing and accounting. EVERY THING that we get excited about, desire the challenge, the opportunity to figure something out, is our purpose. It is our purpose that drives us and we are meant to be desirous, driven and to create whatever “it” is. And, it doesn’t matter what others say, or not say, do or not do in regards to our creative purpose. As long as it matters to me, I will continue to keep creating some thing.
My wish for all is for all to pursue their creative desire, whatever it is, and never stop.
Phew! Got that out of the way. Breathing easier? Hope so.
Let yourself off the hook for not sticking to your resolutions. Why? Because when you made the resolution, it was at the end of one year and heading into a NEW year. Two, because when you made them you might have been influenced by someone or something else, meaning, that it really wasn’t your resolution. Because that is what people do, though you didn’t want to. Third, you didn’t have the steps necessary to make the right resolution in the first place (most likely that is the key to successful resolutions being followed through with).
A Resolution is Like a Goal
So when you make a goal, what is your terminology? Do you set a time, date for completion/accomplishment? How do you feel? Yep, that is so important. Are you excited? or anxious?
There are many aspects that play a big, okay, well, HUGE, part of achieving a resolution or goal. Let’s look at a couple, okay, maybe a handful.
Goal Setting Steps
First and foremost, look at how you feel. If you are excited then you will attract the same kind of excitement and success to your goal. If you are anxious, you are focused on the future and not now, the present moment. Very important. Why? Because you will either see the excitement along your daily day to day goal achievements which will build momentum and the achievement of the goal will happen very easily. If you are depressed or anxious, you are focused on the past or future. When that happens you more then likely will not achieve your goal or it will be a HUGE struggle because the universe is responding to how you feel, not the words you are saying. Get excited.
Second, is the terminology you are using. If you use “wish”, “hope”, “dream”, then your resolution or goal will always be just that, a wish, a hope or a dream. Basically, it’s like living a fantasy. Use empowering positive words. “I am”, “I have” are great first word starters to a resolution/goal.
Third, is action. Acting is so important as it helps the terminology and feeling supporting the resolution/goal. Act like your goal is already achieved. When you act like its already happened, see how you feel. For me when I changed how I set goals, it’s almost like a huge weight gets lifted off of me. And, the silly thing is, is to look at how many successes you’ve already had to get to where you are today. Just because you are not an astronaut, a starring ballerina or Bill Gates, does not mean that you have not been successful. You’ve learned to crawl, walk, ride a bike and so on; so why the crazy seriousness of thinking your goals are not achievable. They are achievable because you are…successful. Act like your goal has already happened.
Fourth, Is the resolution/goal logical and realistic. This is important to understand and grasp. If you are setting a goal which is really a dream or maybe a dream you had in the past or possibly someone else’s wish/hope/dream for you, then it is a vicious circle of unfulfillment. Take baby steps, if you will. In other words, it is more likely to be attainable if the goal and the steps are logical. If you’ve never written a book and you expect to write a book by the end of the year, that is NOT logical or realistic. If you’ve written A LOT, and have bits and pieces of writing that if put together could become a book, then you are on your way to being an authored and having a published book.
Fifth, be date and time specific. When we set a resolution/goal that does not state a date and time for the fruition of the resolution/goal to be achieved, then it goes on for infinity and beyond. Seriously. Setting a goal for losing 5 lbs. by March 1st, 2016 is logical, realistic, date and time specific and attainable.
Sixth. Support along the way. Gather minions or supportive people and places to assist in the achievement of your resolution/goal. Find a coach, people that support your greater good (not someone who brings you down), and find new places or even recreate your own home that supports you in achieving your goal. These are so important. Why? Because we all need people and places that give us the unconditional love, support, encouragement along the way. We CAN not do it alone, but, we can do it together. Gather your support and let them know what your goal is and ask them to check in with you and help you through the times when you think it is not going to happen.
(Mindset: Thinking of something that helps me to create healthy and positive excitement. My successes. “I have lost weight and I keep it off”)
Goal: I have lost 5 lbs. by March 1, 2016
Be easy about all of this. Give yourself permission to achieve. Breathe in. Breathe out. Repeat as needed. Meditate. Focus. Make an inspiration board that you can look at every day. Read inspiring books, websites, Meme’s that give you the nudge to get you past the hiccups along the way and gets you going towards your resolution/goal.
Write it down and then let it go. I know, I know, you are thinking that I’ve gone mad. Well, yes, frankly I have. Bonkers if you will. But then so many of the greatest people are bonkers. Have fun with this. Play. Color outside the box. Set the goal as the steps listed above and see what happens.
Enjoy your life, have fun every day, and blessings,
To some it is the celebration of Jesus Christ’s birth day. To some it is Joy. To some it is a struggle. To some it is full of pain. And, to some it is just another day.
Why do we differ when it comes to this day?
It all depends upon what our beliefs are surrounding this time of year and this day. More then likely, it has to do with our childhood and how our parents and family celebrated, or not, Christ mas.
How do we handle how we feel surrounding the acknowledgement of Christ’s birth day? Celebrate has many forms. Some go to Church Christ mas eve as well as, Christ mas day. Some gather with family. Some gather with friends who they call family. Some go to the movies and others take a trip. No matter how we handle this time of year and this day, it is how we feel that is the most important to be aware of, our feelings.
When I focus on the Christ consciousness of this day, I relish in the knowing that I too have the same possibility of living a life of Christ consciousness. I am not Jesus, but I am a light spirit in a human body that can embody the Christ consciousness in my day to day life. Well, at least I try and work at it as best I can. So, in essence you could say that I am a working embodiment of the Christ consciousness as a disciple of Jesus Christ.
What does that mean?
It means that every day I have a routine, a set of beliefs that keep me grounded (and, in some instances ethereal, when needed), and, ultimately, a focus on the what Jesus Christ embodied. Unconditional love is key. Not having any conditions required by anyone or anything. Praying for guidance and meditating for the answers. Do I hear the messages? You bet I do. Not necessarily when I meditate, but they do come. Do I adhere to them? As best I can. And, important to note…is the question…Why do I not? Because of free will. Yes, that is what Jesus’s main messages was…was to listen to God and when you hear what It/He/She has to say whether through a song, or someone, a billboard or the wind that blows the chimes, is to take action.
Why would I do that?
Because I have found that when I or someone I know has heard the message and they or I do not adhere to the message, things happen or they don’t. Sitting here typing this blog was the message I received today and the gift I am to bestow on others. Whether you read this or not, whether you take your own action or not, is not my business. Your business is your business. The question I have for you is, What are you going to do about your messages, your gifts that God is bestowing upon you today?
Be present to the gifts that surround you now. This is in the form of appreciation and gratitude. Be grateful for the gifts in your present life will attract your ultimate desires. Wishing and hoping and praying without adhering to the messages, i.e., taking action, will keep you where you are at. And, that is okay, too. Not taking action is an action. But the question I pose for you if you do this is, When you take a moment and reflect, how many times has this come up for you in the past? Did you take action or not?
How do you Feel?
Be okay with this new awareness. Acknowledge the gift of this feeling. Why? Because it will help you to understand you. It will also give you the opportunity to rise above and learn the tools to help you along your path to further enlightenment. Should you choose to do so. If not, that is okay too. Why? Because that just might work for you. If not, take the first step in learning the tools to help you achieve the successes, the gifts, that you so hungrily desire.
Being in the moment
Is one of the toughest things to do for a lot of people. Yet, it is one of the most important ways of being. Why? Because it allows us to be present, another gift, to see the beauty that surrounds us all the time. Yes, it is true. It is out there, surrounding us, flowing through us ALL OF THE TIME. It is the eyes or glasses that we are looking through that sees this beauty, or not. When we meditate, another gift, it teaches us to slow our minds down so that when we are out in our daily life, we can truly see what is the message, the beauty, and the unconditional love that has been bestowed upon us by God. Yet, for some, they never see it. Why? Don’t know. None of my business.
What is my business?
My business is me being me, another gift, that I am, shining my light and unconditional love wherever I go to whoever I see, no matter what. Yep, that is all of our truths, Christ consciousness, duty, purpose. That is my gift to others. And, it is my gift to you.
Be in the Christ mas (more Christlike) today.
Bestow His gifts to you and yours this Christ mas day 2015. Be the light. Be the unconditional love. Breathe in and Breathe out. Be still long enough to see the beauty that God has given to you and us all. Celebrate life now and always.
I love this time of year where I live. The leaves change color, and, it is stunning. Change. Some if not most of the time can be relatively easy, note the term relatively. It all depends upon you. For instance the fall colors, I love them, some don’t. Why? Because it also means the trees shedding their leaves and to some that appears as death. To me, it means sloughing off of the old and time to go inward. Keeping what works and get rid of what doesn’t, which is a wonderful reason for living in gratitude at all times.
Taking the time for each season as each season changes, is necessary for growth, spiritual growth and physiological. If I don’t take the time to reflect, ponder and tend to what needs tending, then, eventually, those “things” come up again and again until I take care of them or something “unexpected” happens. Tending to the “things” or beliefs or situations that are coming up for me can be tended to in several different manners. Being aware of them is first and foremost. Acknowledging that there is something that needs care and feeding. It is uncomfortable at times because depending upon what it is that I am facing within myself, I need to be mindful of how deep to ponder. If dwelling on the “thing” too long, can be debilitating and I end up spiraling too deep. Set the timer. Allow only so much time to ponder and most important, give yourself permission to be grateful, thankful for your honoring your true self.
Raking the leaves and ridding the yard of the unneeded is good for the landscape. Keeping the leaves, in certain areas, is also good. Why? Because they will compost down and help that areas health. If I let all the leaves where they lay, it is definitely not good on my driveway or sidewalk. I slip or fall, others might do the same. And, it will clog the drain causing a build up of water and other debris near the drain. As in nature, my life can be the same. There are things that I need tending to and dealt with in the appropriate manner. If I don’t, then I get clogged up and debris (dis-ease) sets in. I might get angrier then necessary, sick, paper cut, stubbed toe, etc. etc. AND, I usually know why.
It is going to be okay.
The other reason I love this time of year is it is the annual time when we give thanks for our abundance. Things such as an able body, mind, abundance in our health, friends, family and material possessions, career and purpose. And, no matter what I have or don’t have, do or don’t do, I am grateful and very thankful that I am who I am and where I am in my life. Why? Because I created and manifested what is before me and when I come from this place of appreciation, more comes my way. Thankful, very thankful.
One thought that has arisen over the last few years at this time of year is tradition. It has always been a tradition to join with friends and family on the last thursday of the year to celebrate thankfulness. Where did this come from? We all know that it was the pilgrims and indians who sat together at a table and shared food and community. But when I think about it, did they all come back together the next year and the next? How has this changed over the years? And, when did Macy’s become part of the tradition, for some? Just sayin’.
Family and tradition is what it is for those that make it so. With this I mean, my family tradition has changed. Why? Because my family changed. I changed. There were some things that just did not work out for me. Why? Frankly, sometimes I don’t know. Other times, it was the family dynamics. I live farther away and trying to please others can be quite a challenge. So, what I do is I ask myself where do I want to spend my thanksgiving and with who. Most of the time it is with my immediate family. Sometimes a friend or two will join in. Am I good with that. Yes. Do I worry how others feel about it? No. Used to but now, No. It was not serving my greater good, for whatever reason, and that is just the way it is.
When we grow up in a family under one roof, there were traditions that were kept up, recreated and adapted to the current situation. Most of the time it was a large gathering. The only reason why I may feel sad is because that tradition was not kept up. And, a lot has to do with family members that are no longer with us and because of that, the dynamics change. Yes, that is probably a “thing” that I need to ponder more, the fact that just because certain family members are gone shouldn’t be the reason I don’t attend a family tradition, but people and things change. And, that is okay.
I am thankful for the history. I am thankful for my herstory. I am thankful for the traditions of Thanksgiving. I am thankful for my traditions, old and new. I am thankful for my family, all of them. I am thankful for this country. I am thankful for friends and neighbors.
This is my belief. I take the stand for standing up for oneself, voicing what needs to be said and acting accordingly to what serves the greater good, even if it means change. Change always happens. Within one minute there are so many changes in so many things. If I follow my inner guidance of what my truth is then I live a more fulfilled life. If someone or others don’t agree, that is okay. That is their belief and I honor that. Whether they honor my belief is none of my business. Dr. Terri Cole-Whitaker states, “It is none of my business what you think of me”, and vice versa.
Our purpose is to have fun and reach our desires. Thanksgiving is the same. Find your happy place, go have fun with those you have fun with. Create abundant health by having fun. Reach your desires by finding the fun and joy where you flourish. Hence the term, “Happy Thanksgiving!”
The holidays are upon us and it can cause for some a feeling of uncomfortableness, anxiety, fear, depression, guilt and shame. My offer is for this; do what you need to do to be authentic, feel good about yourself and be grateful, thankful, appreciative for yourself and others. Most important, is to be healthy, honest and speak coming from the heart in your actions. Seek outside guidance from a licensed, certified professional if you have had in the past or currently have a difficult time with the holidays. There is no guilt or shame in the seeking of outside professional help. I did and it helps, alot.