The past few weeks we have been watching a family of doves nesting in our basketball hoop. I had no idea they would offer me a lesson about letting go.
I first noticed them when I was sweeping the side yard and saw bird droppings. A lot of bird droppings. I thought oh, the birds must be perching on the basketball hoop and leaving their mess. When I looked up I came face to face, well maybe 8 feet, but face to face with a mother dove perched in her nest where the backdrop and hoop meet. I quietly moved away.
Of course, not to leave something so beautiful and special alone, I went and got my camera and took a picture, quietly and slowly.
I’ve secretly watched the mother sitting in her nest and over the past several days have noticed two more little heads pop up from under her body.
Before I knew it, those two little heads grew and were almost the same size as mom.
This morning I decided to quietly take my camera and try and get another picture. I knew it had to be done soon, because of how fast they were growing and since it is spring I knew they would be leaving the nest soon.
Being Forced to Let Go Sucks
To my shock and sadness, the family was not only gone, but so was the nest.
I think about how quickly birds raise their young and then boot them out, or in this case, talon their young out the nest. Little did I know they also pack up their home and leave, completely, lock, stock, and barrel. And, in this case, twig, leaves and padding. Everything! Gone!!!
When I think of my own young, it takes quite a bit longer for them to strengthen their wings and trod on off to the great big world out there. Occasionally they come home to share, visit, get well fed, food and spiritually, but then they move on. I do so miss when they were young, although I do not miss the daily duties that keep them moving and learning, i.e., lunches, laundry, house cleaning, etc.
It made me a little sad that I would not get to look into that mother dove’s eyes any longer, connecting and sending my love to her.
Until I was sitting at the computer looking out onto my backyard. There, under the grapefruit, tree were two doves. They were cleaning themselves, walking and just enjoying themselves in my backyard. Yes, of course, I grabbed the camera. But then, I just sat there and watched and allowed them to be in their moment enjoying themselves. I did too, enjoy them and myself, connecting and being in peace. Just letting them be. Just as I need to let my young be, themselves, growing, learning and experiencing the great big world we call life.
My kids are smart, fun, creative and have a great sense of right and wrong. I know they’ll survive whatever comes their way because like the dove, we loved them, unconditionally. We may not be able to be there to always protect them. Just love them and have fun with them and knowing they have the love to survive anything.
The saying, “curiosity killed the cat”, certainly does not apply to me. I am a spiritual warrior. Wanting, desiring more, more information, diving deep and expanding. Breathing. Pondering and wondering, for the answers to what else is there for me to know. For this curiosity, at times, very ferocious, I search out books and love to read. For this I am eternally grateful.
Books have been a love of mine since very young. My Mom would take us to the library, remember those? And, I would love walking through the aisles, reading the titles, the cataloging label, and breathing in the smell of words upon paper. As I got older, I would ride my bike and bring home mostly fiction. It was one of several sanctuary’s for me.
As a Certified Spiritual Life Coach, the momentum of my reading has expanded exponentially. There are not enough minutes in a day for all the books I want to read. As I share my passion to those who are curious, I offer a reading list. Why? Because sometimes that is the best way to teach. So, I’ve attached my Suggested Reading list. Please take a moment to ponder the list. Breathe. And, see what comes up. If one or more titles resonate to you, get the book and read. There is something in the book that you have called out to for an answer. The answer is in the book, or, at least the next step on your path.
Also, on the list are meditation CD suggestions. All of these I have and still use. Another “toy” in my toy box. Enjoy!
Be Ferociously Curious
Or at least curious in trying new genres of books. Fiction, non-fiction, science, cosmology, metaphysics, just to name a few. Rereading some of the ones on my list also teach me something I didn’t catch the first or second time around.
Please feel free to add your favorite book(s). I love sharing! Post them in comments and also let me know what you think of this post. Blessings
Cre8tive Connections Suggested Resources
Angel Cards – Doreen Virtue
Angels of Abundance: Heaven’s 11 Messages to Help You Manifest Support, Supply, and Every Form of Abundance ~ Doreen virtue and Grant Virtue
The Art and Science of Raja Yoga ~ Swami Kriyananda
Autobiography of a Yogi ~ Parmahansa Yogananda
The Book of Awakening: Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have ~ Mark Nepo
Change Your Thoughts – Change Your Life: Living the Wisdom of the Tao ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Co-creating at its Best: A Conversation Between Master Teachers ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer and Esther Hicks
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself ~ Melody Beattie
Excuses Begone!: How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Gift of Change: Spiritual Guidance for Living Your Best Life ~ Marianne Williamson
The Four Agreements ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
The Heart of the Soul: Emotional Awareness ~ Gary Zukav and Linda Francis
The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teaching of Abraham ~ Ester Hicks and Jerry Hicks
The Law of Science: Using the Power of Spirit to Create Health, Prosperity, and Happiness ~ Parmahansa Yogananda
The Little Book of Bleeps: “Ponder These for Awhile!” Quotations from the Movie, “What the Bleep Do We Know!?” ~ William Arntz and Betsy Chasse (Editors)
Real World Lessons
Think and Grow Rich ~ Napoleon Hill
Love Without Conditions ~ Paul Ferrini
My Stroke of Insight: A Brain Scientist’s Personal Journey ~ Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor
The Purpose Driven Life: What on Earth Am I Here For? ~ Rick Warren
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles” ~ Marianne Williamson
The Four Agreements ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
The Science of Mind: A Philosophy, A Faith, A Way to Live ~ Ernest Holmes
The Secret of Letting Go ~ Guy Finlay
The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire ~ Deepok Chopra
The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself ~ Michael S. Singer
What You Think of Me is None of My Business ~ Dr. Terry Cole-Whittaker
Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
It Works: The Famous Little Red Book That Makes Your Dreams Come True! ~ R. H. Jarrett
You Can Heal Your Life ~ Louise Hay
Your Inner Awakening: The Work of Byron Katie: Four Questions that Will Transform Your Life ~ Byron Katie
Getting into the Vortex: Guided Meditations CD and User Guide ~ Esther Hicks and Jerry Hicks
Namaste ~ by Namaste
Relax, Soothing Sounds for Mind & Spirit ~ Bath & Body Works
Happy Spring… What a beautiful day it is and, once I finish writing this for the Better Life Blog, I am not going to miss being outside and enjoying Spring.
Behind our house is an abundance of flora and fauna. There is so much to see that in every moment I see something new and exciting. Every day I have the same or pretty close to it at least, routine. I greet the day with appreciation of me (I know that may sound silly, but really, it is true), meditate and then move on to having a cup of tea, breakfast and my daily spiritual readings. Then I get my walking shoes on and head outside. I absolutely love it, no matter the weather (unless it is really storming bad, but then again, that is what raincoats are for). Who said I had to be 6 to jump in a puddle. Really!
My roses are blooming, the trumpet vine is coating the back fence and our Star Jasmine is just itching to explode with white star flowers and a fragrance that only my allergies will cause me upset, if I let it. Yes, I have allergies. This year was a bad one. What did I do about it, dealt with it. Yep, tried a handful of natural, homeopathic remedies and found one that works. It has been my remedy for the itchy watery eyes and runny nose. I bring this up because some of us are “allergic” to something. Mine is pollen. I love the great outdoors and beauty that surrounds me when I am outside that I will put my bodies “reactions” just so I can be outside, enjoying, taking in, experiencing the beauty and energy that coats me when I am in the outside.
Appreciate Re-birth & Take Part
Springtime is when everything is blooming, or birthing. The ducklings are so cute, the little bunnies are even cuter. The flora and fauna are telling us to bloom where we have been planted, to shine our light so that others can shine theirs. The energy that I receive when outside is limitless and I want to keep that feeling and retain that energy always and then share it. Yes, energy. Everything is expanding and extending itself, reaching for more expansion, more light. We have all rested and have been hibernating these past few months, storing up, so we can go out and enjoy, have fun and expand who we are and where we are going.
For others, they might have an “allergic reaction” to food or certain people. The same thing applies. How you respond to anything, whether pollen, food or people or places, it is what you do with that “reaction” that is key. I dealt with mine with a homeopathic treatment. I also meditate and do deep breathing. This helps me to calm the mind and receive a “download” for my remedy. Some things take time. And, for those types of “allergic reactions” I give myself the attention I need to just BE. Be who I am, breathe and know that “this too shall pass”. Just as my allergic reaction to pollen will pass. For there is another season that I will bloom and grow and enjoy.
Appreciate Nature’s Beauty
Enjoy the beauty that surrounds you, even if you are still experiencing rain or even snow and darkness. Expand your heart and mind to the Sun that is always shining, just beyond those clouds. The Sun shines on us all which creates the abundance of the beauty that is before you in the blooming springtime and within you.
“Appreciate what is, be eager for what is coming and know that there is great love for you here.” Abraham-Hicks
What the heck! Although I find myself believing I’m on the forefront of my awakening, enlightenment and moving forward on my path, I’ve found that I still have repeat performances of habits and beliefs that I thought were put to rest. Why is that? Mmmm. Not sure though I believe that a lot of these repeat performances have become more profound because I see them happening and I see myself having them, in them, more aware of how I am responding in the moment. Is this such a bad thing? I think not, although I do get a little peeved with myself for not just BEing with whatever comes up.
Is it a good thing? Yes… And no!
Yes, because I am “disassociating” with my ego as it is taking me on a tug of war with whatever It is happening. And, I am able to sit, breath, assess and watch myself, feel myself BEing with it all. Knowing that I can manage my energy during the process is key. Why would I want to activate a negative energy is truly beyond me.
I know this. I am a certified spiritual life coach and have the tools to deactivate the negativity. The hard part for me now is the fact that I see it with others. The hard part being that I see it within them which is within me. With that said, it means that I have to clean up my negative, pointing the finger of blame and shame, in order to heal and find joy in every moment. It also means, that the joy is in the knowingness of this simple awareness.
Letting Go of Negativity
Now the “No” aspect of this is what I just stated, that I know I need to not be in the negativity and BE in the joy for the majority of the day…no matter what is going on outside of me. Then I will be constantly in joy and there won’t be anything other then unconditional love wherever I go.
The negativity, blame and shame pointing finger is also a resistance to allowing my truth show up. How do I know this? Because I have the tools, such as, affirmations, breath work, intention, meditation just to name a few. When I use these tools I allow myself to see that these “things” are not me, they are not who I AM. I just have kept an attachment to them because they had served a purpose long ago.
It is this attachment to, clinging to some “thing” that defined who I WAS and it got me through some thing so I kept it in my baggage. You know, that, “just in case”, I needed it to help me through something in the future.Well, I am here to say that it is time to let that go.
Stay in the Moment
Let the unfolding of my truth be the I AM in the moment, whatever happens, whatever is happening or whatever will happen. Because, as some of you may know, the only moment is in the now. Being present in the now allows me to remove myself from whatever is happening, while it is happening, and let the “whatever happening”, to just unfold, let my life unfold as it should be, could be, will be.
What this does, is to let happen happen with or without my involvement other than just BEing there, in it. When this happens I am not attaching myself to something or someone else AND, whatever that something is or someone else’s stuff is, will stay that way. Some thing, someone else’s stuff. I get to keep my energy and happy state intact and whatever be will be with or without my involvement.
When I sit for a bit with this awareness, I realize that I did forget for just a brief moment. Then I remind myself that I AM an amazing light energy in a physical body having physical experiences that is my human truth. My REAL truth is that I AM light, love and connected to the greatest source, God! God knows my truth to be the co creative light and that wherever I go I spread that to everyone that I meet and everything I see. For that is my truth.
Letting go of the habits that do not serve me any longer and allow new greater more expanding habits to enter in my life. Some may not care for the term habit, but it works for me. Some may prefer to use a term that is easier for them to use, in order to, reach their desired dreams. It is all good, all for the greater good.
In my earlier post, Are You a Plate Spinner, I spoke of letting go of spinning a lot of my plates. What I did not allude to was the path that I took to allowing myself to let my spinning plates fall. Actually, I did not let them fall; I just let go of having to keep them spinning.
In other words, I did not do what most everyone thought I would or should do, and that was rescuing, solving, or advising them when they came to me for help.
I gave myself time. Time to ponder who I was and what my purpose in my life was, for me.
How Did I Do This?
First, was to get back to my meditation practice. Every day. For at least 15 minutes. Some days it was longer and others a few shorter, but to get back into the routine of getting up in the morning and taking 15 minutes to quiet my mind. It did take some time to getting used to, as my mind runs at at least 60 mph if not faster. Then there’s the ego that likes to distract or discount my meditation.
So, I had to quiet my ego. Tell it to take a time out. Sweep out the cobwebs in my mind, open the windows, dust and clean out what did not serve my greater good. Not that I was going to fill it with anything, mind you, just a spring cleaning.
Meditation is very important on many levels. Health is first and foremost because by quieting the mind, it calms the heart and allows me to remain at peace when there is chaos all around. And, for me, that was the most important aspect of why I meditate. To be at peace and remain calm while going through my day, when traffic might be bad, work can get tense, or a friend is in a state of panic. All of these occurrences are going to come up in our lives and how we respond to them is what determines our health and longevity in our life.
Second, I had to let people know that I was not going to show up as I used to, that I was taking a sabbatical of sorts. For some, this was okay, but for others, not so. As stated in my earlier post, some got a really big chip on their plate. What I learned during all of this was that what others think of me is none of my business. And, vice versa. When I removed myself from how others thought of me whether I showed up as they desired or not, my life got a whole lot easier. It took time, but it was and still is so well worth it.
Third, was finding my joy. I had to do a lot of soul searching and I came up with the simple rule that I live by and that is to have fun. Being child-like, is first and foremost how I live my life. Remember what you used to do when you were a child? Or, how you looked at life when you were young? Play is the highest form of research and that is how I live almost every day. Yes, I do have moments and some days that I have to do some things that are required but what I do about those moments and days is that I make it a game.
Why? Because I get more excited and when I get more excited I see the possibilities in any situation. It is easy, so easy! When we start being child-like, we get the opportunity to feel the energy of our source, God, who wants us to be just like the child we were and if you think about it, always will be. We are all someone’s child, and, we are also God’s child. Made in the image and likeness of Him. All he wants of us, is to be happy, joy-filled and create a beautiful and fun place to live in for the short period we have on this Earth.
Take the time to Meditate, be Truthful and Playful.
What I love even more is listening to the questions which I must answer.
The two questions above I’ve asked myself many, many times throughout my life. Maybe not so profound in my younger life, but the message was definitely prevalent throughout my adult life.
There came a point in my life where these two questions were very much in my face, ALOT! You could say it was a mid-life crises. I say I hit the wall, pretty hard. S M A C K!
I had bumped up against it before a couple of times. Brushed myself off and kept at the same behavior only to scratch, trip or bump the wall on too many occasions.
Funny, the word crises. If you take the first 3 letters it sounds like “cry”. A crises is a cry for help. The only one who could help me at any moment is me.
When I hit the wall in my mid forties, it was because I had concretely realized that I had been a plate spinner. You know what a plate spinner is, the talented person on stage who spins 12 plates on top of very tall skinny rods. And, he keeps them all spinning. He runs around making sure the plates all stay atop the rods. It is tiring and he can’t stop running to each plate and rod. Well, that was me, figuratively speaking, but me just the same.
Meeting Other’s Needs
I was making sure everyone’s needs were met, whoever was in my life. My children, husband, extended family, home, friends, dog, and, even my friends friends, almost anyone. Anyone who seemed, to me, that I when I would hear their story and woe’s, I jumped right in and believed that they needed me to help them.
Now I believe in caring for others but, geez, it was killing me. And, what made it worse, is that not only did I know that I was doing this but a lot of my family and friends knew it too!
What did I do?
Stop… Look… Listen
I stopped. Literally. Went on a sabbatical of sorts. Some might even say that I went on strike. Was it difficult? Well, yes! For everyone. Mostly me, though. Why? Because I forgot who I was and what my purpose was. So, what I did was, I dropped plates. A lot of them. Luckily, none broke, just a little chipped, maybe. Some got a big chip. Funny, when you use a play on words because some of my plates/people got a very large chip on their shoulder.
When I didn’t show up like I had before and be for them whenever they cried for help, all of them just didn’t know what to do. Was it difficult? Yes, because I realized I really didn’t know what I wanted, so, in a lot of instances, I didn’t know how to respond to others. Whether it was listening to their story’s, jumping in and advising or requests for help,
Whoa! Time to Slow Down a Bit
Slowing my life’s train down was key to figuring it all out. This was so healing as I was able to become fully present. Awareness is key. Being in the present allowed me to see how I felt about things as they happened, in the moment. And, I was able to choose what I wanted to do or not do depending upon how I felt in that moment. Normally, I would have tried to save everyone, fix it for them.
I stopped pleasing others and am getting better at pleasing myself. When this happens it makes it a lot easier to help others. A win-win for everyone. Even if I have to say no, it is all for the greater good. Allowing others to rise to the occasion and shine their light is a good thing.
Now I get to choose. I get to relish in the beauty and light and love that it is everywhere. How? By slowing down, loving myself, picking who and what I want to play with, so, I can have fun, enjoy life and laugh, a lot!
Play is the Highest Form of Research ~ Albert Einstein
I love to giggle and play. When I do this and am in the moment, everything is brighter, more recognizable. I can see more of what really is important. I feel lighter and know that I am in direct alignment with God, my source. It’s exhilarating!
“The spiritual path is a constant turning within, turning the light of the super conscious into the dark corners and recesses of the mind. What is hidden shall be revealed, and so it is on this path as man reveals his Self to himself.” ~ Satguru Sivaya Subramuniyaswami, aka Gurudeva
Wow! Isn’t that the truth. Pretty much sums it up for me and my life’s journey. And, it is because of this journey of mine why I became a certified spiritual life coach.
My awareness to bring more in the moment gives me the opportunity to see and revel in my truth. Good and the not so good. Not that this truth is always joy filled but I am uplifted to see, feel and hear my truth.
And, when the dust settles I can rejoice in knowing that I am who I am, perfect, whole, and complete, full of love, joy and compassion.
Most of my struggle is in the “wrapping my head around” the new awakening. It’s not the “aha’s” that are challenging me, it’s me challenging the understanding, trying to fit it in to what’s there already. Trying to make it fit in, I believe is what I’m needing to not do. That’s the WoW!
Over analyzing, instead of just being aware of this new awareness and letting “It” be.
And, key is in the knowing of this newness and embracing all of it rather then categorizing, fitting, analyzing “It.”
Cleaning My Internal House
That is what is the dark corners and recesses that need vacuuming and clearing away. Cleaning house to to speak.
So, Open the windows, dust, vacuum and polish your soul of your truth. Meditate and visualize opening your inner windows, clean them, then dust and vacuum or sweep the dark corners and recesses. Then revel in the beauty of your sould, your home, the living temple that resides in your truth.
“Happy Birth Day to Me, Happy Birth day to Me, Happy Birth Day Dear Anne, Happy Birth Day to Me. And, many more on Channel 4, and Scooby Doo on Channel 2”
I am so excited! It’s going to be my birthday on Sunday February 28th. I am going to be 59 years old. I love the color purple and all of its shades, hues and tones. My favorite gemstone is amethyst and lately, emerald. I like green, there are 50,000 shades of green. I like that.
I am very happy and grateful that I get to celebrate my life of 59 years young. Really, in the great big scheme of things that is a blip on the radar.
Since, it’s my party, I’ll cry if I want to, dance if I want to, shout out loud if I want to, eat what I want and wear what I want. AND, I don’t care what others say or think of me. If I happen to make them smile and giggle, well then by golly more power to you for seeing the fun in it all. The childlike attitude, the silliness and spontaneity of being authentic.
I like to feel happy so I work at savoring in the feeling of happiness, of joy. Yes, there are times when I am not so silly or happy and that’s okay too, its just when I let that not so good feeling bring me down. I used to stay there for awhile and sometimes too long. I am learning cuz I’m still so young at 59. There is so much more to know and breathe in and experience and see. I hope, dream and believe I can live for 20 more years or 30 more years just so I can see and experience more.
I love more. Sometimes I love everything just as it is and I’m okay with the beauty that is ALWAYS surrounding me. The unconditional love that the world is smiling, dancing, playing and experiencing itself.
It’s kinda like a bird or a dog or a flower or a 2 year old. They all are just themselves living in the moment of their truth. Calm, content, happy, being, playing, eating, drinking in all that is their truth.
I am happy that I get to celebrate my birth day because that means I’m living and growing and expanding and breathing. And, I’m okay with me being me whatever that might show up to be at any given moment. Be happy Being you wherever you are with whatever your life is at this very moment. Whatever that may look like. Feel that cellularly and let it really sink in. If it’s a happy feeling, let it expand and really watch yourself grow. If it’s not such a great feeling, that’s okay too. Allow yourself to be with that feeling and tell that feeling that it’s time to go. Bye Bye. Now go find your happy place, something that makes you feel good. Now let that feeling really sink in and allow yourself to let it expand, breathe, grow and cement that in cellularly. So, next time you find yourself not going the way you want. Stop. Breathe. Remember that feeling of happiness. It might even be just a feeling of calm, contentment.
Life is meant to be joy filled, contentment, peace, and celebration, of life. Can we be that way all of the time. Heck no. That’s okay, though, because it just shows we are human.
We are spiritual beings in a human form here in earth school. It’s a learning, expanding, growing, experiencing everything there is to experience, feel and sense.
Celebrate your birth day with me on mine. Go outside, play, run, color outside the lines, paint, go to the movies, go bowling or ride your bike. Just go and have fun. Even if you are by yourself. You are fun so go have fun with fun!
I AM matters because without me being me standing in my true authentic self, then I can’t see the I AM of you, others, plants, animals and the Universe as their true authentic selves.
When I shine my light am I AM, then it allows others to shine their light and unconditional love.
I AM what I AM and I AM many things
I AM light, the energy from Source that when I allow the opening of my heart to receive these gifts,I AM empowered to expand, grow, experience, grow some more, and to always, always, always shine brightly.
I AM truth, the truth that I KNOW I AM as Anne, walking MY PATH, for me so I can shine brightly charged by the light energy that is my Source asI AM to walk. I walk this path every day, receiving, knowing, experiencing the truth of Source as Anne so I can share with those that want to learn, love and laugh.
I AM unconditional love. This is so freeing as I AM allowed to experience and give AND receive the same back tenfold. It is so simple, that sometimes I wonder why it took me so long to allow these truths, bow to these truths as my truth. Unconditional love is allowing, relishing in myself and others as their true authentic selves NO MATTER. Allowing others to be who they need to be in that moment. Why? Because it is their path, their story, their life just as it is mine on my path, my story and my life.
I AM creative, co-creative, dancing with my Source in the path of life, my life. To find the co-creative other to expand that creativity beyond its current form. Why? Because that is our purpose. To create, co-create and expand what has transpired so we can move on. Unless I move, the place where I AM will be the place where I will always be. That is not me.I AM, WE ARE meant to learn the teachings that our ours to learn, no one else’s, they are ours.
Simplify and Be
I AM FUN! I love life, I love games, I love to make life a game. Why? Because then it frees me to find the joy in EVERYTHING! Everything is as it should be. Why? Because when we are frustrated, angry or upset, depressed, anxious about where we are, there is a great enlightenment around the corner and we need to let those negative emotions go so we can get moving on our path.
Breathe, relax and ALLOW the unfolding of what is. When I make life a game regarding situations/experiences that are not supporting my greater good, then I can receive the next step on my FUN, CREATIVE, TRUTHFUL, UNCONDITIONAL LOVE AND LIGHT to move forward. Why? Because that is what I AM TO DO, we ALL are to do. Don’t, and you stay stagnate stuck in a muck of the mild river of misery.
Why not be the I AM that we are all waiting for. BE the light, energy, unconditional love truth that is you. Not sure who you are? Breathe, BE, just BE, take the time for self-care. It may seem selfish to others, but until you start taking care of yourself, you can’t take care of others.
The Universe has all the time in the Universe, we in the physical realm, do not. It can be in this lifetime or another. Your choice.
BE YOU! Be the I AM!
Just for fun, of course, get a pad of paper and pen/pencil/crayon/felt marker (color is more fun). Write at the top of the page in the middle,I AM. Now just start writing positive words that empower and enlighten you, be truthful. BE I AM
SILLY (yes, because I really AM)
Now keep going. Do this once a day. Use different words. Find the ones that really resonate with you. Empower those words. Come up with a common 12 word list that you can look at every day. Color them. Use different color of paper. HAVE FUN! Be patient with yourself. Be loving to yourself. Be selfish with the self care that you need. Even if it means standing in your own integrity of your truth REGARDLESS of what others think, do or say.
Took a sabbatical. Some time off and observed life. Looked at what I saw and how I responded to my life and others, and just let life be whatever.
It felt good to let certain things go and just sit in the back seat.
Growing up there were five of us kids and I remember as a child traveling in the station wagon (remember those) and my mom would sometimes take all of us to visit our grandparents or travel (not too far). She would drive pretty fast, I thought, and now I know why. From the back seats she wold hear relentlessly, “She touched me. He’s bothering me. I’m hungry. When are we going to get there. I have to go to the bathroom. Can I change places?” There were no cell phones or iPod’s in those days to entertain us.
So, my mom would make up games, basically to distract us, to quiet her world no doubt. There was the alphabet license plate game and another one was where we had to come up with words from the 3 letters on a license plate.
A Playful Life is a Better Life
I loved it. Because I loved playing games. I still play that game today as I drive. I think it keeps my brain in good working order.
My husband says I’m competitive. I say I love to play games because I love to play, especially games. Winning is secondary. The main reason is that it usually involves others and it is fun.
It gives me an excitement about the “what’s next”, the mystery of my existence or purpose. Loving the not knowing and anticipating and being enthusiastic about the next step is a great feeling, especially when it is about what is next on my path. Letting go and allowing is so freeing.
The observer is stepping back, though involved, and sensing, seeing the movie that is playing before the self. Seeing, sensing action or reaction for me and others.
Being an observer allows me to really and truthfully see my true self, sometimes humbly, learning and hopefully growing from that awakening.
My Mom was fun and a classy lady but being driven by her with the five of us in the back seats we knew we would get wherever we needed to be and fast!
I’m in the driver’s seat now and ready to experience and express those observations from a participant’s point of view. I hope you’ll enjoy the ride, it may get a little bumpy for some of you and we may go fast, but it will definitely be fun!