A very dear friend of mine suggested that I blog. So, here I go. Not knowing what to blog about, I thought I would start out with what “being happy” is for me. Take from it what you will, try it on, see if it fits, if not, don’t use it or maybe if something remotely resonates, then make it your own. There are no rules. I do not have to do anything. Truly, if you think about it, the only rules that I live by are the ones I created. These rules are also called beliefs.
Being happy for me is about being in completely joy anywhere with anyone under any circumstance. We all have lives to lead and inevitably we have to relate, be with others. Some make us very happy while others, well, don’t. It is just that.
I have been researching my whole life through experiences, although I did not know it at the time, but I was creating a manual if you will, of what my likes and dislikes are. I also created within that what and who I want to play with. Why? Because when I make life a game, then everything that I experience I can much easily choose whether I like it or not. Do I want to research it more? Is it a keeper or maybe I’ll hang around the belief or the person for a specific need that needs fulfilling.
Thoughts, Beliefs and Actions
My beliefs initially were created from a thought. Thoughts become things if we create the momentum. The momentum of a thought is created within 17 seconds. What?!!! 17 seconds, yes, just try it out. Create a thought and count along with it. Like a car getting into first gear after awhile, it builds momentum, then after 68 seconds the car, me, has built momentum into a belief. For example, It’s a beautiful day, I could wash the car, I really don’t want to wash the car, maybe I’ll take a walk, yes I’ll take a walk, wonder what I’ll see, don’t know and will appreciate whatever it is I do see, I love my life.
So, that was pretty easy, do you think? Try the other avenue, It’s a beautiful day, I could wash the car, I really don’t want to wash the car, maybe I’ll take it somewhere and pay someone, then I’ll spend money and I don’t want to spend money, why can’t my husband know that I want the car washed and he just do it. I do not like my car, I’m mad at my husband and I need more money.
Try it out and see. While doing this, take a body scan and see where the feelings that arise come up. Do you feel exhilaration and joy? Where? Your heart or head. How about the feeling of anger and upset? Do you feel it in the same place but maybe just a tightening of the chest and now you have a headache. Good to know, is that all of this whether good or not so good is that it is just feedback. No one is wrong.
When we become aware of these feelings then we are on the right path of enlightenment and pure joy most of the time. In time with deep breathing and meditation and just being aware, you will find as I did that life can be incredibly beautiful, happy, joyous, creative, bountiful and the list goes on.
Everyone finds immediate joy in something. Think of one thing right now that brings you immediate joy. Mine is being outside in nature. When I think of nature I am at ease, calm and very happy. There are no attachments or condition on nature, for me, that requires me to be happy. In other words, I live life unconditionally more and more in love with everything because I go to my Happy Place, nature, most if not all of the time. Whether I am home creating quilts, at work, driving, in a city with all the hustle and bustle; I find joy in everything.
When this happens I see more beauty, my vibration and energy are high and so I am attracting the same energy level. People, things, abundance, joy are coming my way because that is what I am putting out vibrationally. Like attracts like.
Letting Go of Attachments
It is when we put conditions and attachments on people and things that gets us off of our path and unhappy and cranky. Think of something in the past where this happened to you. Could have even been unconscious at a dinner or meeting or with the family and out of the blue something was said, not said or done or not done and then you get on that hamster wheel of fear.
Yes, that is what negative emotion is is it is all based on some fear created by our belief system. And, our belief system was created by our thoughts. These thoughts and belief systems were started when we were very young and then there were other incidences that occurred later in life that validated those beliefs. Now they are pretty permanent in our cellular structure.
Are You Using Meditation?
First and foremost is to breathe, deep gut breaths, then just be with the feeling, whether good or not so good. If you have the time, try to figure out where it came from. If not, no worries. Really. Just go to your happy place.
I have found that daily meditation, walks in nature are my source of immediate joy. Just because I am considered an adult by my age I love being a child, acting like one and really getting into imagination and creativity. My favorite sport is laughing and it is risk-free, I don’t need special insurance for it, and most importantly, is that it is contagious.
One of my recent favorite sources of inspiration besides the above is Abraham-Hicks. Check her out on the internet, YouTube and Pinterest. Oh, and Pinterest is another source of fun and joy for me too! Actually I have lots. Lots and lots of joy and happy people, places and things.
Key to all of this is being congruent with my source, my spiritual guidance is always showing up especially in nature, smiling giggling children, quilting and life experiences.
Check out my website, www.cre8tiveconnections.com, go outside, find your happy place and keep that energy that vibration of pure joy within you and ride the path, your path of joy, enlightenment and happiness.